Hometown: Berwick, Maine
I am a divorced mother of two and I have always had a love of traveling. While my divorce was in process I longed for strength and confidence. I knew that there was more to me than the feelings of frustration and sadness I was experiencing. I joined a Facebook group of women who traveled solo. From these women I gained inspiration and determination, I knew this was for me. This was the method I needed, these women demonstrated the characteristics I wanted to bring out in myself.
My trip consisted of seeing some old friends and time with just me. I worried that I would feel lonely or afraid. I was wrong. I felt strong confident and empowered. For me it was the small accomplishments that gave me the courage I was looking for.
While I was in Leeds I had planned to take the train to Oxford for the last 5 days of my journey. There was a ferry close by that I could take to the train station. I stood outside the gate for 15 minutes with no sign of anyone. I had my train ticket and 45 minutes to get there. I began to wonder if I should take the bus but the timetable would not have worked. I remembered what my friend Renee once told me. “There is always another plane, train or bus, it’s not worth getting stressed and anxious if you miss the first one.” A gentleman came over and told me the ferry was not operating. I walked out to the street, downloaded the Uber app, figured out how to use it, and got a ride to the train station. I made it with only a few seconds to spare.
The part that I remember most was from this experience was the calm confidence I felt while dealing with this small change. This day took place in the middle of my solo journey, I could talk at length about many experiences before and after this but this one was pivotal. It showed me that small steps lead to big ones, a little bit of confidence can lead to a lot and I’m okay with being with just me.
When you travel, choose to learn from and enjoy the journey as much as the destination.
Travel Advice: “A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to it’s old dimensions” - Oliver Wendell Holmes